Answering Anything - Silly

And now for the other half of answering the Ask Me Anything, and oh what a doozy this one is. Especially for one who is the complete nerd that I am. Also from Kia Cera:

"Something fun: What fictional character would you most like to spank (or be spanked by) and why?"

Well why can't I answer both?

Which fictional character would I most like to spank? Hmmm....I suppose this depends on the situation. Am I spanking them for my personal enjoyment or because I really think this character needs a good spanking?

For pure sex appeal, it's a no contest:

Now, this isn't because I particularly enjoy Padme Amidala's character. Truth be told I hate Episodes I and II and generally don't enjoy her performance in Revenge of the Sith very much either. But come on....it's a teenage Natalie Portman! Yes please!

Now, which character do I most want to spank because I think they need to be punished? Well, that's a toss up between two very similar characters.

I adore Tom Hiddleston's Loki, and of my numerous man crushes, he's the only one that I've fantasized about topping. Loki is an absolute brat of a villain. Unlike a lot of comic book villains, Loki is not simply trying to take over the world and torment his brother Thor simply to build his ego. He may be a full-tilt diva, but any fan of the character will tell you that all of Loki's motivation for greatness comes from wanting acceptance from his father Odin and to be an equal with his brother. A quote from The Avengers where The Nameless sums up Loki's desire to rule the Earth works well here.

"Your ambition is little, and full of childish need."

I'd like to think that a long, serious spanking for all his crimes followed by all the loving and affirming cuddling that happens after would do a lot to cure Loki's world-altering temper tantrums. But he'd still be cheeky, and thank Asgard for that.

And the other one:

If you're not familiar with the show Avatar: The Last Airbender (or only familiar with it through the crime against cinema that is M Night Shaymalan's "The Last Airbender") this is Princess Azula, Princess of the Fire Nation and the scariest fourteen year old you will ever see. And also a source of frustration as I've gotten older, because the farther away you get from your teen years the more you realize it's not okay for a girl this age to be as unintentionally sexy as Azula is. A lot of that is Grey DeLisle's voice...*shudders* but I digress.

Much like Loki, Azula has serious parental issues. She believes that her mother saw her as a monster, and while she more than lives up to that assessment throughout the series, it still hurts her. Even sadder, she slowly realizes that all of her father's love and praise is simply manipulation, using her talents for his means, and that he doesn't care about her. Watching Azula's mind slowly unravel in the series finale is out of the most unsettling and heartbreaking experiences I've ever had as a fan, and you can't but pity her.

The official canon ending is that Azula spends the rest of her days in a mental hospital, but I for one have always imagined that she reunites with her mother, and spankings and hugs ensue. Cause boy does this girl EVER need one.

Now, who do I do most WANT to be spanked by? Hoo boy. Remember when I mentioned my man crushes? Most of them are celebrities that I really, really want to be spanked by. Aside from two that you'll see right here, Hugh Jackman and Chris Hemsworth are other big man crushes. But ultimately, it comes down to two guys.

Raiders of the Lost Ark is part of what I consider the "Holy Trinity" of Popcorn Films, the others being the original Star Wars and Back to the Future. So it's no real surprise that Harrison Ford was one of those manly action heroes that I gravitated to when I was younger. And while Han Solo is a great character in his own right, Indiana Jones is Harrison at his best. The facial hair, the scruffy hat, the sense that he handles everything through willpower and determination rather than dumb luck. Indy's just better.

You can really boil down the roots of my desire to be spanked by an older, intimidating but ultimately good man due to my Daddy Issues. That initial earning for a man in my life is still very powerful, and as I've gotten older I've realized it's okay to sexualize men. While I'm definitely more attracted to women, I can admit to being just a little bit bisexual. Especially for a guy like this.

But Indy's more of the "Father Figure" type and more representative of the type of man I'd want to spank me in a platonic relationship. As long as he leaves that bullwhip at home.

But the other man here? Total sex fantasy.

 

*drools*

James Bond = Good. Daniel Craig = Better. Daniel Craig AS James Bond?

Oh Yes Sir, please tie me up, spank me, ravish me and do all kinds of terrible things to me.

I mean seriously. Even TOTALLY straight guys want to be dominated by 007. And I'm only about 92% straight.

I probably wouldn't leave my wife for Daniel Craig, but I'd probably cry about missing the opportunity for a minute.

*takes a few deep breaths*

Okay. I'm good now. What was I talking about? Oh yes. Fictional characters I want to be spanked by. In spite of those last two posts, the answer really is pretty simple for me. I've been in love with this character for the last year and a half. Her comic is almost always one of Top Five of any given month. She's a warrior, she's sweet and kind and motherly, she's sexy, she's strong, really everything I love and am attracted to in women. And I would not even hesitate to sub for her. She even comes with the perfect bondage tool.

 

Yep. Princess Diana of the Amazons, more commonly known to everyone as Wonder Woman.

If you know anything about the character's history, it's really no surprise that anyone who's remotely into femdom would find Wonder Woman appealing. Her creator, William Moulton Marston, was a very submissive man attracted to powerful women, very much in the BDSM scene of his day. Diana's iconic Lasso of Truth originally gave the user complete control over anyone bound by it, forcing them to totally obey without hesitation. Kinky? Yeah. So kinky that DC eventually forgot about those powers in order to keep their comics innocent.

I'd also love to spank Wonder Woman, if I was as strong as Superman and thought I could actually get her to feel it. But you don't need a Lasso of Truth for me to say that I'd be perfectly happy letting her be the Head of my Household.

That probably over answers your question. But if I could only pick one to spank, it would be Azula, and if I could only pick one to be spanked by, it would be Diana.

Answering Anything - Serious

I'd like to thank regular commenter Kia Cera for her interesting questions that I'm looking forward to answering. I'll be answering the two more serious questions today and the wonderful silly question tomorrow. Because I really want to address this first question and give it it's do.

"Something serious: What motivates you to spank in a punishment situation? (As a sub, I find this intriguing as it seems to be a lot to ask when a spanker could easily just ignore it or move on to someone else rather than takoing a risk by stepping up and trying to help someone address a problem.)"

There are several motivating factors that go into punishing someone. One of the main reasons is that if me and a submissive are in a situation where I can spank them, I feel morally obligated TO spank them. It's a contract, whether written down or unspoken. If I say I will spank someone when they do things that I will not allow, then I can't back down on my word. It sends a message that I am inconsistent. My wife (or any other submissives I take for a Discipline relationship) will have hard limits placed on them that they will not be allowed to cross, and if they do they will be getting a spanking they won't want to remember.

I won't lie that anger is a motivating factor. And this isn't the little "stop annoying me, you're aggravating me" kind of anger. I consider myself to have a high level of tolerance and don't get mad at little things. But when I have a situation where I have to spank as a punishment, I am going to be angry and I will WANT to make my submissive suffer for their crime. Not because I'm cruel or anything, but just there is a distance there that can't be solved by other means. If for example, I catch my wife smoking cigarettes or find out she's stolen something, I have a right to be angry and punish her if we've agreed to a DD relationship. She's putting herself in danger and acting foolish, and I will do anything to get her to see the error of her ways.

Which really is the big reason that I would spank someone as a punishment: my sincere desire to help them. Just because I want to be in a Domestic Discipline situation does not mean that I want to punish my wife. I would honestly prefer that I never have to, and if I do, I will make the spanking an experience she will not want to live through again. I am just there to provide enforcement for her, helping her to become the best person she can be, for the benefit of everyone around her. I only want what's best for her.

The last motivating factor is that it really feels good to be a Top in a Domestic Discipline situation. To have someone who trusts you, loves you, and needs you in such a powerful way is an intoxicating, enthralling experience. It's a natural high. It gives a Top a sense of self-worth and personal accomplishment, a chance to see his impact on his partner in such a personal, positive way. Even if I never have to spank as a punishment, just her knowing that I will if I have to, and being grateful for it at the end of the day, is motivation enough.

 "Something completely off-topic: What is the greatest compliment you have ever received?"

This I can actually answer pretty easily. While talking things over with one of my Team Leaders at work, I made a mention that I was going to take a few days off in January to recharge my batteries after the Holiday season. I love my job but Christmas just drains all the joy out of it, so I had gotten in a place where I hated coming to work.

Rebekah answered by hoping that I enjoyed my time off, but that it didn't last too long. "We say that all Team Members are replaceable, but really that isn't always the case."

Now I know I do a good job at my work. I show up on time, I'm polite and always willing to help people, and I do my work pretty efficiently most of the time. But hearing that I was such a valued and respected member of my Team, from someone who really had no reason to tell me that other than to make my day, was easily the best compliment I've ever gotten.

Please understand that I have had issues with my self-worth for a lifetime. Part of that stems from my biological father leaving my mother and never wanting me over. Another big part is that my Aspergers syndrome once led my Special Ed teacher at school to say that I would never function in a real world environment and would always be an outcast. Spending the last twelve years or so of my life in a revolving door of "friend zones" didn't exactly help me reach the conclusion that I was anything special either. When I couldn't get a job and slacked off in college which ended up costing me my loans (which I'm now paying for) and kept me from finishing my associate's degree, I was pretty much rock bottom from a self-esteem standpoint.

Getting my new job was the biggest blessing I could ask for. It gave me a reason to get up in the morning, a sense of purpose and something to strive to be excellent at. It wasn't always easy and I still have plenty to learn, but I think it's safe to say that my Team genuinely views me as excellent now.

And that's all the affirmation I've ever really needed.

Ask Me Anything

I've been browsing a few other blogs lately and it seems I missed the memo on March being "Ask Me Anything" month in the blogging community. Well, I'm fairly new and really open about things, so I figured, what the heck, let's see if anyone has anything they'd like to ask me about.

So, any burning questions? Silly questions? Feel free to ask them here of course, but also any time. They don't even have to be spanking related, although it certainly helps.

This weeks gonna be a heck of a week at my store, as Easter is always extremely busy for reasons I can't figure out. So I will be doing my best to Keep Calm and Think of Spanking, but hopefully you guys will give me questions to think about!

And just because I found it funny...